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You Are A Survivor!

Part 12 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Living Awake

Getting off of autopilot for you means living consciously. It is the process of “I am watching those things that I can do something about, and I am doing it.” You are choosing to take action on those things that are most important to you, and are running your life in a way that works.

When you were born you had limitless potential. There was no pre-determined vocation or career path that you had to do. You grow, learn, evolve and develop physical, emotional and mental characteristics that identify you as different from others. Part of these characteristics are what you are going to do for a living, the things you choose to learn and the way you are going to make a contribution or not make a contribution to the world.
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Truth Is Fact, Perception Is Reality

Part 11 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Your Thinking & Reality

Part of taking your life off autopilot is waking up to your thinking patterns. We all have positive thoughts. We all have negative thoughts. That’s normal. The percentage of time that you spend in those positive thoughts or negative thoughts though is a choice.

The most positive person on the planet probably has negative thinking at least 20% of the time. But the positive thinking 80% of the time can totally override the negativity that’s going on within his or her mind.

We all have worries, we have fears, we have things that scare us. We have things we need to be concerned about. We have physical ailments that happen to us. We have finances that go up and down. We have people who make demands on us. A crucial component of all of this is taking control and watching what’s going on within your thinking patterns.
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Can You Commit To A Relationship?

Part 10 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Commitment To Relating

Commitment is a cornerstone of all relationships. Without it there can be relating, there can be communication, there can be interaction, but there’s not really a deep level relationship.

Relationships exist within a foundation of boundaries so that people know what they can and cannot expect from each other. Since commitments by their nature involve that which is relatively unchanging, and since the very nature of your life is change, commitments should help us stick to the fundamental components.

One of the phrases I heard that really is about this and works well for most of us is, “Keep It Simple Stupid” – the KISS principle.
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Every Problem Has A Gift For You

Part 9 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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It’s Always About You

It’s really quite simple. The source of the agreements ultimately is yourself. If you’re willing to be responsible for who you are and what you do, all the better. If you’re not willing to live up to that then you are oftentimes sitting in a victim role. This is not a game you can only half play. You either have honor or you don’t. You either are responsible or you’re not. You either live up to your commitments and your agreements or you don’t. You choose.

What happens when you don’t keep these agreements and your responsibility, is that people get upset with you. And often you probably even get upset with yourself. The mechanics of your life don’t really work very well. You get to blame other people, you get to feel like a victim; you oftentimes get to feel like you’re picked on, and sometimes you get to have a reason why your life isn’t working.
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Can You Commit To A Goal?

Part 8 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Making Agreements

Along with responsibility comes agreements. In the case of an agreement you are committing to a certain goal. You agree to an event. You agree to some process or some ‘thing’ happening. This involved fulfilment is a commitment by you, and/or a commitment by another person where you’re going to take a certain action or not take a certain action. The essence of this agreement doesn’t depend on the involvement of other people. The agreement really is with you, in you.

Years ago, I was visiting at a friend’s house and we were talking about to-do’s–things needing to get done in the immediate future. And we were each making commitments about what our role was going to be in these tasks needing done. About that time, this gentleman’s four-year-old daughter wandered by. She was supposed to have been picking up her room. He said, “Hi honey is your room done?”
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Are You Solution Focused?

Part 7 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Enhance Your Communications

When I ask you to not run your victim perspective by complaining to others, I’m not asking you to stop communicating. I’m not even asking you to stop talking about it. What I’m actually asking you to do is communicate more effectively!

Find a way to communicate in a solution focused manner, not a problem focused manner. Problem focused means, you just think about the problem, how you are a victim and the difficulty. Solution focused means, here’s the difficulty, here’s what’s going on, here’s what you need to do. It’s how you can begin to move beyond it.

You need to share your experience. You need to get input from others or at least input in your own mind from yourself. But you need to think about it, you then need to make some decisions and go solution focused here. Take action – what you can do.
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Break-Out Of The Victim Position

Part 6 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Persecutor, Victim & Rescuer

Another thing people tend to get stuck in is the role of being a victim. There are people who truly are victims. They have things happen to them which are way beyond their control that they are powerless to stop, traumas that happen, abuse that they experience, and so on.

Some are victimized. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about an emotional perspective of ‘I feel like a victim’.

Dr Eric Berne, the founder of Transactional Analysis, talked about what’s called the ‘Drama Triangle’. In the drama triangle there is a persecutor, a victim and a rescuer.

The persecutor is someone who’s bigger, stronger, more powerful, and is often a bully, cruel or mean person. That person puts you down, picks on you, blames you, abuses you, does bad things to you in some way and you feel out of control. It makes you ‘feel’ like a victim.

The victim in many cases feels smaller, helpless to defend against that which they are being attacked for. If you think about back in grade school, some little kid who is getting picked on by a big bully, what does that little kid want? They want somebody who is bigger, stronger, and more powerful than the bully to come along and rescue them. A teacher, a parent, a friend who’s big and strong and powerful. Someone to come along and rescue them from the bully that’s picking on them.
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What Is The Purpose of Trying?

Part 5 of 12 from Wake Up and Win! Turn Off The Autopilot

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Tryin’ Is Lyin’

Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich said, “Trying is lying!”

Try is another one of those conditions we set up to help us not live fully in the present and live it fully honestly. Trying is a mental condition created by the mind that includes things like struggling and effort.

The characteristics of trying are things like: a sense of frustration, a sense of futility, oftentimes lacking of purpose, a condition of not getting satisfaction and of not getting results.

Have you ever heard the expression “Go out and try hard’? The purpose of trying is to introduce the element of sacrifice into getting something done. I have to ‘sacrifice’ something so I will ‘try’ and do this.
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