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Energize Your Life – Use Your Brain For A Change (Part 6)

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(…continued from last week)

More Signals for Change

A third signal to watch out for is feeling hurt, feeling disappointed, feeling lonely or sad. All of these – hurt, disappointment, loneliness and sadness – all have to do with a feeling of loss. Something you expected to go a certain way did not and you feel a loss; a sense of sadness. A friend you’d hoped to spend some time with had something come up and had to cancel the time you were going to spend together. A toy or a vacation you hoped to have fell apart because of lack of money or because of things. It’s disappointing, it’s sad.

To move beyond the hurt, disappointment, loneliness or sadness you have to pick a new direction. You set a new goal. You don’t keep focusing on what’s not working. Winston Churchill once said, “No success is final nor is failure fatal.”

I suppose there are failures that could be fatal but 99% of the failures in life are not going to kill us, they’re just disappointing. So quit focusing on that. Quit focusing on the things you can’t do anything about, pick a new direction and take action.

You have to keep on moving and pick a new direction with passion. That is how you move out of hurt, disappointment, loneliness or sadness. Because all of those feelings of loss begin to diminish when you refocus on something you can do something about.

A fourth signal that things in your life need to change is guilt. Guilt means you need to change your direction again. I once had a professor when I was in graduate school say, “embarrassment is shame before another person, guilt is shame before yourself.”

Guilt means you have violated a standard that you believe in. You did something that went against your rules, something you value. You acted in a way you didn’t mean to, you said something you shouldn’t have said, you didn’t do something you agreed to do. In other words, you broke one of your standards.

To move beyond this requires you make a commitment to doing things differently in the future. You think about it. You learn what you can from the experience. You make a decision to do it differently.

In effect you make a decision, a vow to yourself to behave in a different manner. And then once you’ve really gotten the learning out of it so you don’t do it again and you’ve made that strong committed decision, you then give yourself a break and forgive yourself for having made a mistake because you are not perfect.

The decision, the vow and the learning give you freedom from guilt because you then take yourself up a level so you don’t repeat the negative pattern. Overcoming guilt, it just again means I need to move beyond the violation I did so that I don’t do it again.

The fifth one, feeling overwhelmed. Feeling pressured, feeling stressed, feeling overloaded. These result from something coming at you too fast. You’re trying to move through something at a rapid pace and it leaves you feeling like you are just spinning like you can’t get it all done. Like there’s too much. It’s like getting hit by an avalanche. This happens because it’s all too much. You’re trying to encompass something that’s too much. Or you don’t have it broken down into bite-sized steps.

The biggest project, if you break it down into its component parts, you break it into one step at a time, can be done. The old saying by Lao Tzu, “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step,” is absolutely a true statement, right? You take one step, then you take another step, then another step and another step. And the longest journey can be done a step at a time.

To move through overwhelm, pressure, stress and overload you have to list what needs to be done, you then prioritize your list, you choose one of those things at the top of the list that is a high priority and you take action.

You focus on what you can do versus what you can’t. You chunk it down. You break it into bite-sized pieces on your prioritized list looking at the most important ones, and you hit it. You go for it. Study and master one skill that helps you, then another, then another, then another. These skills make a difference in how you lead your life. You need to move beyond them.

Through paying attention to these signals you can better direct your life where you want to go and you truly can energize your life because you have signals which are telling you where you need to go and what you need to let go of in the process.

(to be continued…)


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