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Breaking Free! (Part 7)


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(…continued from last week)

Be Conscious of Going Too Far

A parent trying to control every movement, action or behavior of a child will both frustrate the child while making the parent absolutely crazy. We need to be aware of what’s going on around us so we can choose better what we can and cannot do so that we can have more control where we can have control. That always begins inside of us, with us.

This process of awareness needs to be conscious and ongoing. Some of the things that restrict clear awareness are things like having to defend our position vs. listening to someone else.

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Another is if you feel compelled to always be talking. What if you stop, ask questions and listen? You’ll learn and you’ll grow.

What about feeling strongly about staying within your comfort zone? We all have a comfort zone. It’s the place where you feel safe and at ease. If you must stay in that comfort zone your awareness is not going to grow as it would if you were willing to take a chance and learn something new.

What about defending your position? Got to be right? Have to do it a specific way vs. being able to look at someone else’s point of view? Look at a new idea, explore where there may be value in it.

What about getting stuck in unawareness by having to be right? Have you ever met somebody who always has to be right? Maybe you are one of those people? Let’s hope not. But the person who always has to be right is locked into a position that inhibits learning.

Having to protect ourselves vs. being vulnerable is another way to keep ourselves stuck. What about if you withhold information, don’t tell people what they need to know vs. sharing, letting them know who you are and what’s most important to you.

What about doing the same behaviors again and again and again vs. trying something new? What about unwillingness to listen to another person’s feedback you are receiving vs. encouraging feedback even if sometimes that feedback isn’t positive or has a bit of a sting to it that makes you think or gives you a shock. You’re more aware and more conscious from that.

Breaking Blame

Why would someone blame another person vs. looking at their own attitudes and actions? We blame because of our fears.

That’s why people point fingers, they blame others, don’t own up to the issue or don’t tell the truth. It’s the result of feeling afraid–of repercussions, someones anger, punishment, looking bad or loss of esteem, penalties they may incur, being made fun of, on and on.

It’s common for people to block their awareness by complaining to themselves or others, ‘Why is this happening to me? I’m a victim. Poor me’ vs. ‘Unfortunate, but what can I learn from it? How can I manage this? What can I do to get through it? How can I keep growing? What can I do differently next time I have to make a decision like this?’

Stuckness Creates Loss

Our stuckness holds us back from achieving all we can. Every day you need to be asking questions like ‘What can I do differently? What can I learn here? How can I assist myself and the people around me to do new things?’

Moving off your position can help you be more powerful in who you are and where you’re going and achieve your goals because you’re learning, growing and moving forward.

One of the first things that must be done in order to make an impact and fully live in the present is be absolutely honest with yourself and with the people around you. Telling it straight out. Mark Twain once said, “I always tell the truth, that way I don’t have to remember anything.”

When you have something to hide your life becomes more complicated. What if you chose to tell the truth? What if you chose to be honest with yourself every moment about what you want, what you will do, what you won’t do vs. having to cover it up or hide it or not telling the truth to the people around you?

I’m not talking about out and out lying to people; I am talking about hiding things. Not being fully straightforward. Not letting them know the truth from your perspective.

We need to be aware of what’s happening and express that to the people around us. Most people intellectually buy in to telling the truth. When we avoid telling a truth out of fear of hurting someone else, about repercussions, about whatever, we tend to have it backfire on us because you then have something you have to keep covering up.

(to be continued…)


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