When doing an internship for my masters in psychology, a therapist I worked with had me study many types of therapeutic interaction. One of those was Transactional Analysis by Dr. Eric Berne. In Transactional Analysis there are three major components to consciously managing ones life. They are: Awareness—Choice—Control. Awareness is recognizing what is going on […]

How big are your dreams? Be certain they are big enough that the obstacles you encounter don’t block them. Do you ever get discouraged? You wonder sometimes how you’re going to keep going? Do the trials you go through at times seem like they are just too much? Well you can overcome all of this. […]

There are dozens of ways to build rapport and connection with others. I want to talk about one specific aspect—eye contact. We live in a very diverse world. On any given day you will cross paths with people who grew up in a different country. They speak a different language, have different customs, like different […]

In human experience conflict is normal. But conflict is really only of two forms—external conflicts that you have with other people, or internal conflicts you have within yourself. There are four kinds of conflict you can experience. First is conflict of roles and responsibilities. In this is: who’s responsible for the task or the situation, […]

Comedian Bob Hope said, “If you watch the game, it’s fun. If you play it, it’s recreation. If you work at it, it’s golf.” Mr. Hope’s humor is about the perspective we hold—and about ones’ attitude. Studies have documented that over 80% of all conflicts, are conflicts of perspective. It’s the way one person sees […]

Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you want in the world.” Wouldn’t it be great if others just did what they need to do when they need to do it? Or, wouldn’t it be nice if those around you who really needed guidance (even if they don’t know it!) would just listen? But, what’s the […]

When was the last time you tried something new, where it really made you stretch to do the new activity? Where made you even feel uncomfortable? That’s good for you. Few people actually like that discomfort. The vast majority of people do everything in their power to stay within their comfort zone. This isn’t bad […]

Do you ever hope for something and it just doesn’t happen? The pathway between hoping for something and having it—is action. To have the life you desire requires doing—usually a massive amount of doing. When you see someone like Michael Phelps, Kobe Bryant, Merle Streep or others at the top of their “game”, what you […]