A major mental block many people commonly experience is uncertainty.

Uncertainty can show up as confusion, hesitation, lack of decision making or procrastination. In a nutshell, it’s the individual’s uncertainty of what to do.

The inner self-talk of uncertainty is something like, “It might work. Well, I hope it works. But, what if it doesn’t work? Oh no, it’s not working yet. This is terrible! It’s probably not going to work!” On and on……..

The real answer for people who move into uncertainty is Read more »

Have you ever been around a grumbler? A person who whines, or gripes all the time? A person who is a downer just to be around? How much do you like it? Probably not so much.

That negativity is a choice. It is always a thought at a time. Yet, we forget that. We get caught up in the moment and let our thoughts run away. Read more »

Are times ever tough? Do you get discouraged? Have you ever felt like the struggle to do what you want or need is just overwhelming?

To keep going and achieve the success you desire takes Mental Toughness. Whether it’s dealing with Read more »

A few of Murphy’s Laws:
“What ever can go wrong, will go wrong.”
“Of all the things that can go wrong, the worst possible thing that can go wrong, will go wrong, at the worst possible time.”
“Everything takes longer than expected, and costs more than budgeted for.”

If you don’t control your time — Read more »

Behavioral research has shown that 97% of the American population would rather talk than listen to others.

Through asking a series of questions when speaking or listening you have an opportunity to build a deeper level of rapport and connection. When interacting with others, you have the opportunity to gently guide the interaction into a positive experience.

In many cases it’s to your benefit to think about positive questions you could ask before you engage someone else.

Not only does asking positive focused questions apply to interacting with others, but it applies to your own internal dialogue.

If you ask yourself, “How could I have been so stupid?” your brain will give you an answer to that and stay focused on your blunder. “Well dummy it’s because you are too old/young, male/female, have too much/too little time, etc.” Your brain must answer questions–even bad ones.

Instead of “How could I have been so stupid?” why not ask, “What could I do now to take care of this?” That will assist your proactiveness and action.

Both of the previous questions fulfill every one of the 6 things listed below that all questions do. Use these criteria from now on to form better questions and become a more effective communicator.

Success Through Asking Great Questions

1. All questions focus the human mind in one direction while deleting other potential options. If you ask questions about why you are a failure–you are not going to get answers about how to succeed, you are staying focused on failing.

2. Questions focus your thinking on being either more positive or more negative–pay attention and choose to focus on positivity.

3. The type of question you ask will either open up the communication with others, or close it and make the interaction briefer.

4. Questions either focus on the details of the situation or open up ones’ perspective to more of a big picture.

5. Asking questions focuses the mind into either the past, present or future.

6. Questions have the potential to open up creativity or lessen it.

“Nature will only reveal her secrets through the process of asking questions.”
Werner Heisenberg, Quantum Physicist

Look back over the 6 things questions do, while thinking about the following 2 questions. Each of these pertains to a mistake that was made. But they are opposite in the answers you will receive.

“How could you have messed it up so badly?” versus “What can we do to get this back on track and moving forward?”

Both are focused on an issue–but illicit very different responses. Take back control of your brain and interactions by asking great questions.

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Excerpt from: Unleash Your Success, Volume 1

The common scenario for most people is to not take personal responsibility for how their life is or isn’t working, and for how they feel. Have you ever heard (or maybe even said), “When they did ________, I felt ________.” (When they yelled, joked, pleaded, I felt, angry, sad, excited.) The idea that they made me feel something disowns personal responsibility for life.

“When Susan yelled she made me mad.”
“During the argument they made me feel small and stupid.”
“Being in Rome made me feel romantic.”
“It made me sad when my friends left.”
“Being with her/him makes me feel loved.”

These are inaccurate statements. Read more »

Having a positive and optimistic outlook can help protect people at risk for heart attack and strokes.

April 17th, 2012 the Harvard School of Public Health said “the glass half full attitude” and happiness have been documented to lower risk of vascular diseases and heart problems.

For people who had documented risk factors for heart ailments of all kinds, the Harvard study showed that those who were the positive and optimistic were less likely than their less-optimistic or pessimistic peers to have a stroke or heart attack. Read more »

When a person is confident they tend to breathe slower and deeper. They are what are called belly breathers – bigger, deeper, slower breaths. It gives the appearance of calm confidence.

When someone is nervous, they usually breathe shallower and rapidly – fast, short, shallow breaths. This rapid breathing pattern is an automatic signal in the human brain that something is wrong.

Now you may not directly notice how someone is breathing or the rise and fall of their chest, but your peripheral vision automatically picks it up. You may not even know how you know that person is nervous but you get a gut feeling that they are. Read more »