Do you ever feel bored? Do you get down, sad, depressed? Do you yearn for company when others are not around? Though all of these are normal, your “company” part of your brain may need a bit of work. One evening while socializing with a buddy (I’ll call him Despondent Duffy), we were discussing relationships. […]

How many times have you said the word “can’t” in your life? In actuality the more appropriate word would be “won’t”. It’s not that you can’t, it’s not that you aren’t able, it’s that you are choosing not to do ____________ (wash your car, write the paper, learn something new, confront a troublesome person in […]

He dropped out of school at age 13 to go to work and help his mom make ends meet. At 16 he ran away from home because his new step-father beat him. He then falsified papers that allowed him to join the Army, and he served 4 years stationed in Cuba. After the Army, he […]

For just a moment think about an incredible pro athlete like LeBron James. Can he only dribble a basketball with one hand? Can he only shoot one type of shot? Can he only receive passes that come to him from his right or left side? To be maximally effective LeBron has to be able to […]

During my internship for my Masters in Psychology, the therapist I interned under had me study in great detail the field of Transactional Analysis (TA) developed by Dr. Eric Berne. From the Transactional Analysis point of view, there are three components to living consciously. They are Awareness—Choice—Control.

Becoming discouraged when things aren’t going the way you want is normal. You wonder sometimes how you’re going to keep going. Does it at times seem like it’s all just too hard? Or there’s too much to do and you don’t know how to do it all? You can break through all of that. Building […]

Building rapport and connection with others is a central part of life. The better you do this, the more successful you will be in every area of your experience. Eye contact is one of the most powerful methods for building your connection. Diversity is everywhere. Daily you will cross paths with people who grew up […]

Conflict is normal for humans on planet earth in the 21st Century as it will be in the next century, and the one after, and all that came before now. All conflict is only of two forms: external conflicts, those you have with others, or internal conflicts, those within yourself. In these two areas of […]