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I’ve Only Got Three Nerves Left – And You Are Pinching Two Of Them (Part 7)

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Person vs. Problem

Another thing you can do is really try and separate the person from the problem. Separate the future from past interactions. Separate positions from interests.

You strive to clarify what’s going on between you and them so that you don’t make them the problem. You don’t link up something that’s happened in the past with what’s coming in the future. You maintain your awareness right here and now.

Strategize

Another thing that is a key to making things begin to work and managing the situation is brainstorming. Brainstorm the potential solutions to the conflict. Listen carefully and see if you can compile as big a list as you can possibly come up with for alternative ways you can manage the situation that works for both you and for them.
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I’ve Only Got Three Nerves Left – And You Are Pinching Two Of Them (Part 6)

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Learning In Conflict

What is the only thing in your life that you can truly control? You, right?

This negative input, this rubbing you the wrong way, this pinching your last nerves, can be used as a source of learning. Every single situation you encounter has richness in positive and negative potential.

It can be a source of tangible or intangible gain, inspiration, enlightenment, learning, growth; or that situation can cause rage, fear, shame, entrapment, resistance. The choice is really not up to the people we’re interacting with but it’s up to each of us as individuals and our willingness to face and work through the situation.
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I’ve Only Got Three Nerves Left – And You Are Pinching Two Of Them (Part 5)

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Jealousy

Another thing that causes people to criticize, give a hard time, or pinch your few remaining nerves is because they’re jealous.

If someone feels inadequate in some way, criticism is one of the ways that they try to bring people down to their level.

Your critic may be jealous of you. The person who is giving you such a hard time might be trying to restore balance in the situation by bringing you down, thereby supposedly lifting themselves up.
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It’s A Perception Process

Receiving criticism, negative feedback, getting rubbed the wrong way by somebody is absolutely part of life.

Most of us don’t like to be criticized. How’s that for an understatement? But criticism really is almost unavoidable.

The only way you can live a life without criticism ever happening to you is to hide away in a cave, never see another human being or talk to anyone, just stay all by yourself all the time. That’s the only way that you’re never going to receive negativity or negative feedback from someone else.

Criticism can tell us how another person perceives us personally or our team. The difficulty is, this feedback is quite often tinged with the other person’s emotional state. It’s really hard for us to see ourselves and be 100% honest about how we’re doing. So feedback can be helpful.
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I’ve Only Got Three Nerves Left – And You Are Pinching Two Of Them (Part 3)

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Distorters Of Input Received

Years ago, Katherine Hepburn said, “One learns as they go through life, that if you don’t paddle your own canoe, you don’t move.” So it is with managing situations that provoke us or push our buttons. We must manage us.

One of the ways this is done is by managing what is called your ’emotional intelligence’. For better or worse, in all communications within the situations you encounter, you must manage yourself. We must handle the things that go on inside–no matter how the other person is acting or reacting.
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I’ve Only Got Three Nerves Left – And You Are Pinching Two Of Them (Part 2)

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The Dark Side

You see, there really is a dark side of conflict and criticism, when people are trying to pinch two of your last three nerves.

When we’re in conflict, we oftentimes will say things we don’t mean and sometimes we mean things we really don’t get around to saying. Only rarely do we truly communicate at a very deep level what we are honestly thinking and feeling.

Seldom do people speak from their own center of truth and expose their deepest most vulnerable feelings and thoughts at that moment in time.
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I’ve Only Got Three Nerves Left – And You Are Pinching Two Of Them (Part 1)

Have you ever had people rub you the wrong way? Does negativity or criticism take a toll on you? Do you ever wish for a way to unplug from tensions inherent in your situation? Well, today is your lucky day. We are going to explore exactly that.

Some people are like having a crab get a hold of you. The way they act, speak and interact triggers feeling like you want to do mean things to them. The issue blows your center of balance, impacts your emotions and preoccupies your thoughts.
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Learning Everywhere, All The Time

Even if you are the expert, what can you learn from the people around you? There was a story that was told by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, author of the book On Death and Dying. She made significant contributions to understanding the process of death, and helping other people cope with death. Whether it is the death of someone they love or their own.

She told the story about a time when she was working in a hospital. Before her insights into death and dying, she was working as a psychiatrist dealing with mentally ill patients, and occasionally with terminal patients.
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