Part 3 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Options Make Life Easier Remember the mathematical principle, the Law of Requisite Variety? It says “The part of system with the most options will control the system.” Not might control the system, not could control the system, “will” control the system. For instance, what’s […]

Part 11 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Break Free of the Blame Game Relationship tip number ten is an expansion of something I mentioned a moment ago. It is break free of the blame game. We need to use “I” statements instead of “You” statements. One of the most common causes […]

Part 7 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Feelings Are Valid Couples communication tip number six is that emotions are not normally right or wrong. They just are. We are emotional beings. Everything we do, we do because it feels right to us or it feels wrong to us or it’s something […]

Part 6 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Who has the Concern? Relationship communication tip number five is that we need to focus on the person who is having the concern whether that is you or whether that is them. If it’s you, you need to slow down and take the time, […]

Part 5 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) More Than One Perspective Tip number four would be that we need to watch out not to confront our mate with preset judgments or opinions that say they are wrong or at fault. There is more than one perspective on something and to automatically […]

Part 12 of 12 from Winning Relationships! (continued from last week…) The Triple Win We need to have what I call the triple win. That is a win for the customers, the employees and the company. Or for you, your people and the organization. Or, for you, your spouse and the people that you deal […]

Part 9 of 12 from Winning Relationships! (continued from last week…) Credibility The second is that we need to be credible. One thing we all desire is peace of mind. We all want to deal with people again and again who they have a connection with us. We need to feel that they are doing […]

Part 5 of 12 from Winning Relationships! (continued from last week…) Good or Bad is a Perspective Then the big question really is – what causes people around us to perceive what we do as good or bad? It is a subjective evaluation. The other person thought that what you did was good or bad […]