Part 5 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Gliding Through Signals Pacing another’s communication is like a dance. You each take cues from the other person’s signals and you move together. When you are really in sync, it’s fun, it feels great. When the dance is forced or toes are getting stepped […]

Part 4 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) The Pacing Flow When you have rapport with a friend or co-worker it’s because you’re matching in their communication style. One of the most complex parts of this is pacing. The more you fit in with them, the more you are like their delivery […]

Part 3 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Options Make Life Easier Remember the mathematical principle, the Law of Requisite Variety? It says “The part of system with the most options will control the system.” Not might control the system, not could control the system, “will” control the system. For instance, what’s […]

Part 2 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Rich Moments I’d like you to take a moment right now to remember a time with a good friend or a family member when you were having an exceptionally good time, a time worth remembering, when you and they felt great and were in […]

Part 1 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) There is no such thing as perfection, but there is mastery. There are no flawless diamonds, there is no exact, perfect performance. Mastery comes from taking action, noticing results – good or bad, planning out a new course of action, then going forward again. […]

Part 14 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Look at Them with New Eyes Tip number fifteen, look at that person with new eyes. Look at that person every day and think of something about them that you like, love, or admire. Even in the toughest times, even if you’ve been doing […]

Part 13 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Maintain a Sense of Humor Tip number thirteen is maintain a sense of humor. Try and keep it light. Things are not always heavy. You don’t always have to be working on the relationship. If it’s too much work, it will fall apart. People […]

Part 12 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Hear the “Please” in the Message Relationship communication hint number eleven is we need to make an effort to hear the “please” behind our partner’s requests or statements. Even if your partner is yelling at you, they want something. It may not be the […]