Part 8 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Multisensory Pacing Works Dr. Maxwell Maltz, the author of Psycho Cybernetics said, “People who say that life is not worthwhile are really saying they themselves have no personal goals which are worthwhile. Get yourself a goal worth going for. Better still, get yourself a […]

Part 6 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Types of Matching One example of pacing is social customs. When you go to church, shouting profanities at the top of your voice during the sermon is probably not high on the list of acceptable behaviors. Beating up someone you work with just for […]

Part 5 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) Gliding Through Signals Pacing another’s communication is like a dance. You each take cues from the other person’s signals and you move together. When you are really in sync, it’s fun, it feels great. When the dance is forced or toes are getting stepped […]

Part 4 of 12 from Communication Dance (continued from last week…) The Pacing Flow When you have rapport with a friend or co-worker it’s because you’re matching in their communication style. One of the most complex parts of this is pacing. The more you fit in with them, the more you are like their delivery […]

Part 8 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Be Honest Tip number seven is be honest. There is honest and there is brutally honest. I once counseled a woman who didn’t have any long term good friends. She had not been able to hold a relationship together, and the reason was because […]

Part 7 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Feelings Are Valid Couples communication tip number six is that emotions are not normally right or wrong. They just are. We are emotional beings. Everything we do, we do because it feels right to us or it feels wrong to us or it’s something […]

Part 2 of 14 from Communication Essentials (continued from last week…) Also what we need to do if someone does have a request of us is to reply to them rather than to react to them. Replying is softer and yet still direct. Just reacting is a common cause of communication breakdowns and misunderstandings. A […]

Part 12 of 12 from Qualities of Highly Successful People (continued from last week…) #10 – Communication You pay attention to the communicators and to the communications coming towards you. Most important, you also hear what isn’t being said. You listen both with your ears and your eyes and with your feelings. When good communication […]